It’s funny: As human beings, we are very particular about our sexual boundaries and preferences. Some people fill their bedroom closets full of ropes, whips, and harnesses but wince at the thought of anal foreplay. Others prefer immersing themselves in role playing activities with their partner(s), but wouldn’t dare experiment with anything BDSM related.
At #LubeLife, we’re not here to judge. As long as “your thing” is legal and consensual, we don’t care. We want you to explore your inner-freak! That said, we’ve noticed a few stigmas and myths surrounding the most inclusive sexual accessory on the market: LUBE.
Lube is perhaps the only sex enhancing product that benefits everybody, regardless of sexual orientation, age, gender, religion, preference and experience. In this article, we’ll dispel some common myths that discourage people from enjoying the best of #LubeLife.
Myth #1: Lube Is NOT For Younger Women
A common #LubeLife myth is that sexual lubricants are reserved for older women during menopause. Menopause affects estrogen levels in women and leads to vaginal dryness. While lube certainly helps enhance sex for women going through menopause, it’s a mistake to only associate vaginal dryness with age.
The fact is, women of ALL ages experience dryness from time to time and it isn’t something they should feel ashamed about. Everyone’s rate and amount of “wetness” varies on an individual level, but levels of vaginal secretion can be affected by:
1. Lack of foreplay and general excitement. Sometimes, getting “in the mood” requires some extra work. If your partner lacks the time and energy to help you reach your happy place, you may have a difficult time getting wet enough for penetration.
2. Stress and anxiety. Even the most sexually energetic college student will occasionally find her reservoir drying up due to stress and anxiety. It’s hard to get (and remain) naturally lubricated if you can’t get your mind off of midterms.
3. Hormonal changes. Menstruation, contraception use and pregnancy affect your levels of natural lubrication by inducing hormonal shifts.
4. Medical conditions and medication.
If you’re a young woman experiencing a bit of a drought, don’t freak out – just grab some lube and get it on!
Myth #2: Lube Is Only For “Lady Problems” And Anal Sex
Some men operate under the assumption that lube is only for lubricating vaginas and anuses to make sex more enjoyable for their partner. If you happen to have a penis, you should consider the following benefits of lubrication:
· Enhances masturbation. Many water/silicon-based lubricants provide longer-lasting hydration and lubrication than your typical hand lotion. If you want to avoid callouses and tears on your hands and hammer, grab some lube.
· Helps erectile dysfunction. As men get older, they have a harder time achieving and maintaining erections. Lube can help reduce friction and increase thrust-velocity, thereby providing enough pleasure to regain your former glory.
· Reduces premature ejaculation. Men of all ages can struggle with premature ejaculation. If you want to go longer for your partner, consider using water/silicon based lube with sex toys (or your hand) to further acclimate your little guy to vaginal sensations. Think of it as endurance training for your second head!
Myth #3: All Lubricants Are The Same
Many people assume all lubricants are interchangeable. Baby oil, veggie oil, butter, spit, water-based lube – who cares, right? They all do the same thing, right? WRONG.
If you don’t understand how the main types of lube differ, you risk allegoric reactions, skin irritation, damaged sex toys, and even pregnancy. Here’s the breakdown:
1. Water based lubricants. Water-based lube is popular because it’s inexpensive, feels very natural and hydrating, and doesn’t stain materials. They are safe to use with latex condoms, diaphragms and most sex toys.
2. Silicone-based lubricants. Similar to water based lube, silicone lubricants are safe with latex condoms (just don’t use it with silicon sex toys, as they can easily damage surfaces). Silicone lube lasts a long time, so you can apply it and forget.
3. Oil-based lubricants. While oil based lubricants are thicker and creamier than the alternatives, they compromise latex condoms, increasing the risk of STIs and pregnancy. Good for foreplay and masturbation.
4. Petroleum-based lube. Petroleum based products, while thick and long lasting, are hard to wash off and may irritate vaginas. They also destroy latex products. We recommend avoiding this option.
We hope we’ve been able to dispel a few myths surrounding the use of lube. Like we mentioned at the beginning of the article, #LubeLife is for EVERYBODY. If you’re still a bit confused, we recommend trying out one of our water-based lubes so you don’t have to worry about compatibility issues.