301 Anal Sex Tips: How to Bottom like a Goddamn Pornstar

It’s Anal August, and sex expert Zachary Zane is here to teach you his (bottoming) tricks of the trade.

Anal August has officially arrived, and boy, aren’t we lucky to live in a world where there’s an entire month dedicated to getting railed in the ass? But there’s a reason why Anal August exists. There is so much misinformation about anal sex, and so many of us didn’t get proper sex education or have access to medically accurate information that focused on pleasure, or how to enjoy sex. Because let’s be real: Sex should be FUN. If you and your partner(s) aren’t enjoying it, then something’s not right.

Below, I have some introductory tips but also some more advanced anal (specifically bottoming) tips that even folks who have had a lot of anal sex might not be aware of.

Let’s dig in (to that hole), shall we? 

 

The Pre-Anal Preparation (i.e. Douching and Diet)

Before talking about the mechanics of anal sex, we need to talk about the least sexy part of getting down and dirty: poop. No one likes a poopy butthole. Or actually, I don’t want to kink shame. Some people love it, and if you and your partner do, have at it. However, I think most people try to avoid it.

 

Diet

Diet is HUGE when it comes to bottoming and preventing any accidental feces. I actually know some bottoms who never douche because they eat so meticulously and don’t need to. (To be clear, that is not me. I eat an entire meat lovers pizza most nights for dinner.)

When it comes to diet, you want to eat foods that are high in fiber. Luckily, most foods with high fiber are healthy for you, such as fruits, vegetables, legumes, nuts, etc. Still, it may be worth taking fiber supplements daily to maintain a consistent intake of fiber. Many brands sell fiber supplements. Honestly, the cheapest ones that work fine for me are the daily pills sold on Amazon.

Fiber helps your gut and stomach run regularly. It may sound counterintuitive, but if you are clogged or stuck and someone starts poking around, you are in for a mess.

Additionally, when it comes to diet, don’t eat anything that will upset your stomach—the main culprits are spicy, greasy, fatty, fried foods, or rich, creamy sauces.

 

Douching

Of course, you want to have as clean as a butthole as possible before engaging in anal, and there are two main ways to douche (and clean) before having sex.

The first involves using a standard douche, which is a little bulb with a nozzle connected to it. This is great if you’re taking a normal-sized penis, dildos, fingers, etc. If you’re getting pegged by a 12-inch dildo or getting fisted, then you need to clean out a little more thoroughly. However, for most of what people want to do, a standard bulb and nozzle are sufficient.

Here’s how it works. You fill the bulb with warm or cool water. Hot water will burn the insides of your asshole. (I have accidentally done this, and it was NOT fun.) You then lubricate the nozzle with silicone lube (it’s thicker than water-based) and insert the nozzle into your rear end, shooting water inside you. You hold it for about five to ten seconds and then expel it over the toilet or in the shower.

Do not add essential oil or any scents to the water. Tap water is fine. It’s like, you don’t need purified water to shoot up your asshole.

You really want to fight the urge to over douche. I know we want to be squeaky clean but if you douche too much, or let’s say you’re squirting the water out of the bulb forcefully, you end up reaching your lower intestines, where poop is actually stored, and once you knock that loose, what should be only five to 10 minutes of douching then requires you to douche for 45 minutes to an hour.

Moreover, studies have shown that douching, specifically over douching, despite being challenging to quantify, can lead to a higher likelihood of acquiring STIs. So remember, less is more!

The second way to douche involves using a hose that you connect to a showerhead.

This really shoots water up in there forcefully and is only necessary if you’re taking some massive cock or plan on getting fucked for hours. Porn stars often douche with hoses. Honestly, I think they’re a pain in the ass and take like 50 minutes because they clean out your lower intestines. I don’t really recommend it for standard anal sex.

 

Test With a Dildo

When I think I’m done douching, and all cleaned out, I head to the shower and use a suction dildo that’s pretty huge, bigger than the dick I’m going to take, to test if I’m clean. If I can insert that for five minutes, and I’m not messy, I know I’m good to meet my person IRL. An added benefit is that it loosens up your asshole before having sex.

 

Anal Sex Mechanics

Foreplay is crucial when doing anything involving the booty. Anal works best when you’re aroused. When you’re not, you’ll clench your asshole, be in pain, and not have a fun time.

So eat your partner’s pussy, and when she’s dripping, okay, start working on the butthole. Or stroke your partner, and when he’s hard, then you can start eating their booty.

I like to start with ass eating for foreplay. Fun fact: #LUBELIFE recently launched their newest lube, Peaches & Cream Anal Delight. This lube was specifically designed for eating ass, but the best part is that it can be used for penetrative sex, too, so you can easily transition from ass eating to penetration. If rimming isn’t your thing, you can always start by using a lubed-up finger to warm up.

 

Lubes

Speaking of lubes, the anus is NOT self-lubricating, like the vagina, so lube is mandatory. You’ll likely want to use a lot of lube, and no, spit will not cut it.

Silicone lube tends to be better for anal because it’s thicker and lasts longer. #LUBELIFE has two different silicone lubes that are great for anal sex. The first is the Ultra Slick Thick Silicone Lube. This lube is ideal for folks who want to have a long anal session and don’t want to stop having sex to reapply lube constantly. It is a little bit on the messier side, and if that’s something that bothers you or your partner, then you can try the Barely There Thin Silicone Lubricant. It’s still silicone-based and thick, but a little less messy and easier to wash off.

Now, if silicone lube just isn’t your thing, #LUBELIFE also has their Water-Based Anal Lubricant. This lube will not make a mess, is easy to wash off, but it’s still three times thicker than regular water-based lube, making it ideal for anal play. Water-based lube is also compatible with silicone-based toys, whereas silicone lubes are not.

When applying lube, apply it directly to the penis (or dildo), and also apply it directly inside the anus using a finger.

 

What If I’m Just Too Tight?

Not all anuses are created equally. Some folks have very sensitive and tight muscles surrounding the sphincter, which can make loosening up enough to receive a penis or dildo challenging. Luckily, there is a solution, referred to as Dr. Carlton’s Butt Clock Method.

So the external sphincter is made of skeletal muscles that you can control, such as when you squeeze your asshole. Whereas the internal sphincter is made out of smooth muscle, you can’t control it with your brain, but you can control manually with lateral pressure.

So, if you’re extremely tight, imagine your hole as a clock. Have your partner insert a lubricated finger and press over to 3 o'clock, then apply pressure for 15 to 30 seconds. Then do the same thing at 9 o’clock, down to 6, and then up to 12. When your partner is done, you’ll see how much you’ve loosened.

 

Breathing (Don't Clench)

You want to take deep breaths while getting penetrated. Fight the urge to clench and take slow, deep diaphragmatic breaths to relax yourself. A reminder: Anal sex should not be painful. A slight discomfort? Yes, that’s different. But actual shooting pains are not good. That means you need to stop what you’re doing, apply more lube, go slower, use something smaller, etc.

And of course, this entire time, you should be communicating and (if you’re the top), checking in with your partner, asking how everything feels.

 

Anal Sex Starting Positions

When people think of anal sex, they often think about doggy style. I get it, nearly everyone loves doggy, but odds are, you don’t want to start in that position. I recommend starting in cowgirl or a position where you, the bottom, is riding your partner. So, have your partner lie still on their back, and you mount them. They shouldn’t be thrusting.

Being on top allows you, the bottom, to control the speed and depth of penetration. Once you feel relaxed and loosened, okay, you can switch to a position where the top is more in control of speed.

 

After Sex

Don’t quickly run to the bathroom right after having sex. Personally, I have had multiple experiences where the top immediately shoots up out of bed and heads to the bathroom to wash off their toys, dick, or fingers. I get why, obviously. And if you’re dirty, yes, you should do that right away—but bottoming is a heavy-duty experience, right? It can be pretty vulnerable, and the bottom may want some goddamn cuddles after. So, if you can fight the urge, I’d stay and cuddle, and then you two can head up and shower after.

 

I’m wishing you all the BEST Anal August filled with nothing but joy and pleasure (and some dick)! 😜