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Your Toughest Questions about Anal Sex, Toys and Lubes – Answered

By #LubeLife Team   |   November 19, 2020  

When it comes to sex, there are so many questions. From not knowing what to do to wondering if your partner is satisfied, sex is much more than a physical act. One specific aspect of sex that is shrouded in secrecy is the world of anal. A subject that many people shy away from discussing, anal sex has increased in popularity with every passing year. With that being said, there is still much to learn about the backdoor. Sex toys are aspect of the sexual experience that adds dimension and playfulness. When sex toys and anal sex are combined, it can lead to incredible experiences; if you know what you’re doing. 

In this article, we’ll address some of the toughest questions regarding anal sex, toys, and lubricants. 

Is there a way to have anal sex without a lubricant?

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To answer this in the simplest manner, no, there isn’t a way to have anal sex without lubrication. The reason lube is necessary is because the anus does not produce any kind of natural lubrication. Without adequate lubrication, it could result in tearing of tissue in the anus. When there are tears in the anus, it leaves a person susceptible to sexually transmitted diseases and other complications.

What kind of lube is best for anal sex?

The best type of lubricants to use for anal sex are a combination of tough and slick. Because the anus requires more lubrication than the vagina, you need a lubricant that is tough and able to withstand the motion of entering and exiting the anal canal. Because sex requires motion, you want to find a lubricant with a slick consistency. 

Silicone based lubricants are perfect for anal sex as they have the consistency to withstand friction while still providing support.

How are water-based lubes useful in anal sex?

Although silicone based lubricants are great for anal sex, water-based lubes should not be discounted. One major benefit that water-based lubricants have over silicone based is its consistency. Being naturally smoother, water-based lubes make the sensation of sex feel as it should. While the need for reapplication may be more frequent, sex will feel more natural when using a water-based lubricant.

Is it safe to have anal sex without condoms and lubes?

Even if you’ve been with your partner for years and fully trust them, condoms should always be used when having anal sex. Condoms provide protection against very real dangers like sexually transmitted diseases. Condoms are also an extra layer of protection for the anal canal itself. As previously discussed, if you’re looking to have anal sex, use a lubricant. The anus needs extra moisture to avoid tears and other irreversible damage. 

Why do people use buttplugs?

The reasons for a person using a buttplug can vary. Sometimes people want to use buttplugs to prime themselves for the insert of bigger objects. There are other instances when a person may want to feel more comfortable or submissive. Then there is the case of a person using a buttplug to orgasm when they’re feeling the need for a little pick me up. Buttplugs are first and foremost a tool to help people understand their bodies more intimately. 

How many times can I have anal sex in a month?

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When it comes to the frequency of anal intercourse, there is some debate about whether having anal sex often is beneficial or a detraction. When couples engage in frequent anal sex, it helps to loosen the anus overtime. This means that the pressure and tightness which comes with an untouched anus dissipates over time. However, there are others that feel that too much anal sex leaves the anal canal at risk of tearing. 

A rule of thumb to follow is to ask a doctor and create an open dialogue where you discuss options for anal sex.

How common is anal sex in married couples?

It is hard to know how common anal sex is with married couples. That being said, several studies indicate that more couples are willing to try out anal sex than in the past decades. Whether a result of more information or a society that is more open to speaking about sex, anal is still considered kinky but not fully off limits.

Can anal sex cause STD’s?

As with any sexual activity, the possibility of contracting an STD is a constant threat. By making sure that your partner is tested regularly and using condoms, you greatly diminish the chances of having an unwanted result. 

Get your anal on

Anal sex is something that can add spice to any relationship. Making sure to always keep yourself and partner safe is priority when it comes to engaging the anus. As long as you follow these tips, you and your anus will be fine. 

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