If you haven’t heard, sex is amazing. Not only is it intensely pleasurable and intimate, it also burns a lot of calories without the hassle of committing to a gym membership. But like any great workout session, you need to come prepared with the right accessories and equipment to make the most of it (disclaimer: LubeLife is not responsible for any injuries that may occur while incorporating a treadmill in your bedroom shenanigans).
Before you bust out the yoga pants and jump rope, we’d like to recommend a better accessory for your sexual aerobics: Lubricants. In case our brand name hasn’t tipped you off, we’re all about lube. Lube is a great way to enhance any sexual encounter; it’s cheap, accessible and anybody can use it. Lube is life.
Unfortunately, there are many myths, taboos, and stigmas that prevent some women from incorporating lube in their sex lives. One of the most common stigmas is that there must be something physically or emotionally wrong with anyone who needs to use it. The logic goes something like this: Every woman should be 100% naturally lubricated and aroused in erotic situations AT ALL TIMES, and the use of lubricants implies a lack of sexual interest or physiological issues.
Newsflash: This is total nonsense probably concocted by a cynical frat boy whose only experience with female sexuality is online porn. Back in the real world, we know for a fact lube benefits women for dozens of reasons that have nothing to do with “sexual dysfunction.” Let’s leave these outdated stigmas in the past and explore 7 reasons you should make lube a regular part of your sex life.
It aligns your body with your mind
When aroused, blood naturally flows to your genital area, prompting vaginal glands to produce fluids that lubricate your vagina. This is the textbook explanation for why you get “wet” when aroused. But as we all know, theory and reality don’t always perfectly align. The same is true for your mind and body. There will be moments when you’re mentally aroused and interested in sex, but for whatever reason, it’s taking a little longer for your body to catch up (like men, women sometimes experience “performance anxiety” that affects their body even after their mind has moved on). Using a little lube can jump-start your body’s natural lubrication process, leading to better sex faster.
Lube helps you accommodate “larger” partners and toys
With big partners comes a bigger responsibility to make sex feel great for both parties. Sometimes, natural lubrication just won’t cut it if your partner is packing a large punch. Using a few drops of water or silicone water-based lubricant can easily reduce friction, making sex enjoyable for the both of you. Likewise, using water-based lubricants on girthy sex toys can make for a much smoother experience (bonus: water-based lube is safe to use with silicone toys and won’t damage them).
Lube prevents medical issues, hormonal fluctuations and medication from ruining your sex life
Women experience vaginal dryness for all sorts of reasons. This is a perfectly natural part of the human experience. Organic changes in the body (like menstrual cycles or menopause) often induce dryness. Additionally, contraceptive pills and medication can affect estrogen levels and suppress ovulation, causing your body to produce less cervical mucous. Hormones and medication shouldn’t stop you from enjoying intimacy, especially when the solution is so readily available.
It can enhance foreplay
Even if you’re not experiencing dryness or painful friction, lubricants can make your sex life a lot more exciting. Using lube during foreplay is a great way to ramp up the tension. We recommend trying flavored lubricants during oral sex, though we encourage you to get as creative with it as you like. There are no limits!
Lube makes masturbation more adventurous
Whether you like using fingers, toys or both, lube is a great accessory for your solo sessions. For those of you who enjoy variety, we recommend experimenting with specialty lubricants that create warm or tingling sensations. Just be aware that silicone lube CAN damage silicone based toys, so stick with water-based lubricants if you plan on going that route.
Lubricants aren’t habit forming and can used liberally
Some women worry that they’ll become dependent on lube to enjoy sex. The fear is that vaginal “wetness” can’t compete with lube’s friction-killing goo, so using it too frequently will ruin lube-free sex. We’re happy to report that this isn’t the case. If you enjoyed sex before lube, you’ll still enjoy sex without it. Likewise, don’t be afraid of using lube all the time if that’s what you like – you can’t be habituated to it, so use it as often as you want!
It can make anal sex safe and not miserable
Anal sex without lube is painful and miserable and everybody knows it. Unlike the vagina and mouth, the anus doesn’t self-lubricate enough to accommodate penetration without risking bodily damage and major pain. So if you’re thinking about dabbling in a little anal play soon, definitely stock up on some lube. Be advised: If you’re being responsible and using a condom, avoid oil-based lubricants.
Oil-based lube can break down latex condoms, increasing the risk of STI transmission. For this reason, we recommend water and silicone based lube (make sure to check out our silicone-based anal lubricants – they stay wet for longer are safe to use with condoms).
Hopefully we’ve been able to dispel some of the stigmas surrounding lube. If you’re thinking about introducing (or reintroducing) lube in your sex life, shame should not be a factor in your decision making process. If, however, you’re worried about allergic reactions to lubricants, don’t fret: organic lubricants are available and don’t contain any of the ingredients typically associated with allergic reactions.
What are you waiting for?