By LubeLife Team | March 28, 2019
Ladies: We all know lube can work wonders for our sex life. It eliminates discomfort caused by friction, remedies “dry spells,” and can even make foreplay twice as fun and exciting. Unfortunately, some women feel uncomfortable introducing lubricants into the bedroom. After scouring Reddit, online forums, and product comment sections, we collected the top two most common reasons women avoid using lube:
In short, using lube makes some women feel awkward and unsexy. As certified lube experts, we hate to see women avoiding the benefits of lubrication because of exaggerated fears. The reality is, the vast majority of sexual partners aren’t turned off by lube, as it makes sex more pleasurable for them as well (especially when wearing condoms). Likewise, applying lube shouldn’t be a mechanical, mood-killing experience. In this article, we’ll explore 7 ways you can make using lube sexy instead of awkward.
Who says you need to stop having fun to lube up? With the right preparation, lube can be an organic, non-intrusive part of your sexual adventures. The next time things are heating up between you and your partner suggest a silky-smooth massage. This gives you the perfect excuse for busting out some water or silicone-based lubricants. As things progress from “casual massage” to “oh-wow-we’re-totally-going-to-have-sex,” simply lube the important areas and forget about it.
If you’re worried about ruining the moment by awkwardly fumbling around with a giant bottle of lube, simply introduce it long before penetrative sex occurs. A good ole’ fashion handjob is a great way to do this. Since a dry handjob is rarely fun for anyone involved, apply a generous glob of lube to your hand and get to work. If you have flavored lube, applying it during oral sex makes perfect sense also. Both methods will leave your partner wet and ready when it comes time to get it on.
Oral sex can make any relationship sizzle. For some amazing tips and recommendations check out our how to turn oral sex into a treat with lube entry.
Pssst, hey – here’s a little secret: You don’t have to put in work for lube to work for you. Instead, have your partner do all the work! Nudge your partner into initiating foreplay and pass them the bottle. Don’t worry, it won’t be real work – using lubricants to help stimulate your lady bits makes things easier (and more pleasurable) for everyone involved.
As we mentioned earlier, managing large bottles of lube before and during sex can potentially slow sexual momentum. To avoid this issue, place some lube in a small bottle or a cute lotion dispenser of your choice. You can keep it simple or get as fancy and decorative as you want. The important thing is that it’s easy to grab and dispense. Dispensing lube shouldn’t take more than 5 seconds, and a small, discrete bottle ensures your focus remains on intimacy (and not inventory management).
If you’re new to the world of #LubeLife, you may want to experiment with lube on your own before using it with a partner. Try using it as a masturbatory aid; apply modest amounts to your fingers or toys (just be advised that water-based lubricantsare the safest option to use with silicone-based sex toys). Pay attention to how your body reacts to cool, silky lubrication and find your optimal comfort zone. Transitioning from self-use to use with a partner will feel natural and seamless!
Some women want to use lube for vaginal or anal sex but don’t want to incorporate their partner(s) in its application. That’s totally fine. Everyone has different preferences and comfort zones. Before letting your partner enter into your palace, simply retreat to a bathroom, whip out your cute little bottle of lube, and apply it privately. If discretion is your thing, you may not want your partner to perform oral sex on you after you’ve already applied it (they’ll most likely taste it, and if it’s not flavored, it may be an uncomfortable experience for them).
Remember: There’s nothing embarrassing about using lube. It’s useful for everybody, regardless of age, gender, and orientation and can work wonders for your sex life. Now experiment with a few of the above ideas and find something that works for you!
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