Forget Paris, We Have The Eiffel Tower At Home

By: Syeda Khaula Saad

If you’ve got the Eiffel Tower on your bucket list and it has nothing to do with Paris (unless you have a very specific fantasy in mind), you’ve come to the right place. With the rise in interest in MMF (male, male, female) threesomes (thank you, Challengers), you might be planning your next menage-a-trois and want to include this surefire sex position. Luckily, queer kink and sex coach Amun-Ra Tutenkhamen is here to help you figure out the mechanics and just how to make sure things go as smoothly as possible. 

For those of you new to the threesome world, the Eiffel Tower is a position where one person is on all fours, receiving from both behind (either vaginally or anally) and in front (orally). The Eiffel Tower shape usually happens when the two penetrating partners high-five at the top — or even kiss or hold hands. 

“This position allows the bottom to receive pleasure ‘from both ends’ while all three participants get to have penetrative sex at once,” Amun-Ra tells #LUBELIFE. “It’s fun, a little silly, and a great chance to take turns in different kinds of dynamics within one lusty position.”

But like with any double-penetration position, you want to make sure that you’re lubed up and ready to go — in every area!

Amun-Ra explains that there are a few ways to make sure you’re properly lubricated without interrupting the flow of play. 

“Perhaps you want to apply it yourself in the moments between foreplay and penetration, or maybe you want your top to sexily apply it to your body for you, which can be an even bigger turn-on,” he suggests. 

If you’re a bottom, Amun-Ra advises having your top approach you from behind, feel you up from neck to waist, and then reach around and apply lube to your clit and vulva, working in smooth, circular motions from top to bottom to inside.  

“Tell them how you’re enjoying it as they work you over, even encouraging fingering and anal play (if that does it for you),” he says. #LUBELIFE’s Barely There Thin Silicone Lubricant is a great option if you’re trying to stay in the moment while making sure things are gliding along. And if your Eiffel Tower involves anal, you’ll definitely want to prep with the 3X Thicker Water-Based Anal Lube — because when it comes to back-door play, there’s no such thing as too much lube. 

And the fun doesn’t have to stop with the back. You can up your oral play in the Eiffel Tower sex position by choosing a fun, flavored lube. Trying flavors like Strawberry, Pina Colada, and Sex on the Beach can transform the experience entirely. Wait, when did they put the Eiffel Tower in the tropics?

And if you’re still nervous about how things may go, it’s always important and helpful to talk it out beforehand. Spontaneous threesomes can be fun, but nothing beats a good sex sesh where boundaries are established, turn-ons are discussed, and lubes are already on the table waiting on standby.

“Like all good sex, the more you tackle questions like this outside the bedroom, the smoother it will go when you’re actively playing,” Amun-Ra says.