Your G and A-spots are little coves of pleasure, but what the heck are they? And how do you find them? We'll show you the basics of bringing pelvic anatomy into your sexual play to create unique and hot sensations.
Vagina owners, it's time for an anatomy lesson in pleasure – and lemme tell you, that plastic model of a pelvis at the gynecologist's office is about to look a lot sexier. If you've ever read anything – like, literally anything – about sex, you've heard of the female’s G-spot. It's been a staple of every grocery store rack women's magazine since the 1990's. Starting sometime in the mid-90's, you could not pick up an issue of Cosmopolitan without finding an article that promised to give you THE wildest orgasm via stimulating this walnut-sized section of tissue inside the vagina – which, by the way, good ol' Cosmo basically told us was nearly impossible to locate.
As if the G-spot wasn't causing enough confusion, now medical science has introduced another internal hot spot that's sending us all scrambling for our curved dildos in hopes of locating the sexual equivalent of a pearl-filled oyster: the A-spot.
We know, your heads may already be spinning (and frankly, so were ours), so we'll break down the very basics of the G-spot and A-spot into more #LubeLife friendly terms.
The G-Spot, Explained
What is it?
Short for “Gräfenberg spot,” the female G-spot was first introduced into the public lexicon by sexuality researcher Dr. Beverly Whipple. Dr. Whipple discovered that stimulating a very specific area of the vagina – just a few inches inside the opening, on the front wall – created an excited response in female research volunteers.
This “spot” is now actually known as belonging to the clitoral network. When you stimulate the female G-spot or male G-spot, you're actually touching an area of erectile tissue that wraps around the urethra and becomes engorged with blood when aroused. This area is considered part of the clitoris, which extends into the body and includes a duo of paired legs or crura and bulbs, aka vestibular bulbs.
So to put it simply, the G-spot is just the part of your clitoris that hides out inside your body and actually wraps around the vaginal canal.
So when folks try to tell you that having a G-spot orgasm is “better” than having a clitoral orgasm, or somehow shame other folks who can't get off on vaginal penetration alone, they're just showing how little they know about sexual anatomy.
Yep, a G-spot orgasm is a clitoral orgasm! Just a different kind.
Where is the G-spot, and how do I find mine?
Just like literally every aspect of sexual anatomy, the exact location of the G-spot is going to vary from person to person. Yours might be in a seemingly totally different location than that of someone else with a vagina. (And yes, this means that trans men have a G-spot, too!)
Your best bet to find the G-spot is to use your fingers or a partner's fingers. The area itself can often have a bumpy texture that can feel spongy when aroused.
You can also use a curved sex toy to find your G-spot. Some folks say they can feel the urge to pee when theirs is initially stimulated! Fans of female G-spot stimulation often say this feeling eventually goes away and leads into a sublime pleasure.
Just go slow, gently rubbing your pleasure tool of choice against the area, either back and forth or in circles. Give your G a rest until your next self-love or partnered sex session if you're feeling frustrated – or can't feel anything special at all.
A combination massage-and-sex lubricant can help things along by preventing chafing and increasing glide.
Will I even enjoy having my G-spot touched?
You won't know for certain until you try, but there's a good chunk of the population that finds the exact opposite to be true of the G-spot's apparent potential for heavenly orgasms. If you're part of this latter group, direct G-spot stimulation could feel like almost nothing at all, a mildly annoying need to pee that never goes away, or a full-out urge to rip your preferred sex toy/partner's penis/strap-on dildo out of your vagina at once because it's so god damn uncomfortable.
While some folks can even learn to squirt from heavy G-spot stim, don't feel abnormal or broken if you prefer to leave your G alone and stick to what usually feels good.
But if you do find that G marks the spot, yes, you can totally have an extremely satisfying orgasm just by stimulating this area alone. Teach your body how to climax this way and it's very possible that you'll experience a squirting orgasm, aka a “female ejaculation.” (Or as we've pointed out above, a plain ol' ejaculation if you or a partner happens to be a trans guy.)
Meet the New Spot on the Block: The A-Spot
What is the A-spot?
Medically known as the anterior fornix erogenous zone or AFE, the A-spot refers to an area inside the vagina between the cervix and the bladder. It's roughly a few inches higher than the female G-spot, and said to be just next to or underneath the cervix.
When stimulated during a 1997 research study, the A-spot produced marked pleasure and increased lubrication in study participants. During earlier studies in the mid-1980s, some female participants even had an orgasm from having their A-spots stimulated.
While the medical jury is still out on whether or not the A-spot even technically exists and much more research is needed, the A-spot is now considered a part of the deep vaginal erogenous zones (DVZs). These five zones include the G-spot, A-spot, O-spot, the cervix, and pelvic floor muscles, all of which contribute to orgasm.
And honestly, who cares if it “technically” exists? Stimulating the area where the A-spot is supposed to reside can be incredibly beneficial to your sex life!
How can I find and stimulate my A-Spot?
Unless you happen to know the precise location of your cervix, it's recommended to start searching with your finger, a sex toy, or a partner's finger, penis or strap-on around the “middle” of your vaginal canal.
Slowly make your way upwards, massaging the front wall of the vagina with gentle pressure. Massage each section for as long as it feels good – you might even hit the G-spot on the way up! If you notice a seemingly sudden increase in lubrication blended with an extra arousing feeling, you may have found the “X” on your vaginal map to the A-spot.
Well, now that I've found the dang spot, what's next?
Now that you've sexually stimulated your A-spot, the same step(s) await: ask yourself if you like it! That's literally all there is to “finding” and pleasing your G and A-spots.
You might have just discovered your next go-to move in masturbation or partnered sex, or you might come away from the whole experience knowing this is definitely not your thing.
But if you can truly get down with the A-spot vibes, you can massage this area when you're aiming to get turned on by penetration, want to gush with aroused wetness, and even when you're having a difficult time getting turned on.
Whether or not it makes you orgasm, the women’s A-spot is known for helping your body produce vaginal lubrication and prepare your vagina to feel pleasure.
However, we're still gonna advocate for a good water-based or silicone-based lubricant to help the women’s A-spot play along! There's no shame in needing a little assistance to keep things moving smoothly and comfortably.
Ideal Play Positions for G and A-Spot Sex
Once you get the hang of caressing your vagina's “money spots,” you'll want to put those babies to the test with some superior positions that'll hit the G and A during partnered sex.
Doggy Style (and anytime you're hittin' it from the back)
Pretty much any sex position that allows for penetration from behind works amazingly for A and G-spot stim, since both of these areas need that upward curve from your partner's penis or strap-on to be properly reached.
Good ol' traditional doggy style works, with you on all fours and your partner straddling you from the back. You can switch up the typical doggy style pose and add a pillow or two under your hips for an even tighter angle, or bend over the arm of a couch and let your partner pound you into heaven.
For a gentler approach, lie down on your stomach on the bed, place your fingers or use a g spot vibrator on your clit, and have your partner enter you slowly, gathering more speed as your body warms up to the sensations.
Angled Anal Sex
Believe it or not, you can reach both the G and A-spots during anal sex (if you're into butt play, that is). This level of booty penetration might be best for more advanced anal explorers and those who reeeeally like butt sex since it requires a slight angling of the penis or dildo.
Try anal sex in any variation of the doggy position, as we just mentioned above, or with the penetrated partner on top if you'd prefer more depth control. The thin wall between the vagina and anus allows you to feel your partner's thrusts as they graze up against the G and A-spots – even though they're not technically located in your b-hole!
Just as in vaginal doggy style, angle your butt and hips upward, pressing against your partner's pelvis to increase the pressure on your A and G-spots.
On Top, Head-to-Feet, On All Fours
If you can support your body in a crab-walk style pose, this somewhat advanced sex position can be killer for G and A-spotting.
Have the penetrating partner lie on their back on the bed. Now sit or lie facing away from them, with your feet towards their head.
Remember doing the “crab walk” as a young person, with your back and butt facing the ground while pushing yourself upward on your hands and feet? Get in that position with your hips just above your partner's penis or strap-on, and then lower yourself down over their pelvis, slowly inserting them into your vagina as you go.
Keep using your hands and feet to support yourself, and work on bouncing your hips up and down. This position certainly favors the athletic, but even if you can only handle the muscle burn for a minute or two, it can be worth it for the G and A-spot pleasing while you and your partner share the view of each other's thrusting bodies.
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